| New Beginnings |
New Beginnings
Nadine Rosechild Sullivan, Ph.D.
New years are times of new beginnings. People make decisions about things they would like to change.
They resolve, From this point on, I will take different actions to secure different results.
I will eat differently, exercise differently, treat my body differently. I will face my fears.
I will behave differently in my relationships. I will interact with others differently.
As I demonstrate in my classes* on Manifesting or Intentional Creation (a.k.a. The Secret, the Law of
Attraction, Faith), when exercised intentionally, the human will is an amazing thing. The moment of
decision, held fast, literally moves mountains.
But sometimes, the problem is in the holding fast. We can get derailed without even understanding why or
what happened.
Take New Year’s Resolutions.
More often than not, just a short time after the New Year, our conscious resolve has dissolved.
This can happen, because, as good as the human will is, we are more than just our consciousness. There
is more to you. There is a bigger, broader, deeper YOU than the part of your mind, of which you are aware.
Whatever the strength of your conscious will, there is far greater willpower in your unconscious. To make
any sort of lasting change, our unconscious and conscious minds must be brought into agreement and
work together. When all parts of you are in harmony, you have access to some of the greatest change
forces known.
Yet, often, we are a maze of hidden contradictions. Our conscious mind wants A, but for reasons of its
own, our unconscious mind wants B, and B is what we continue to have. It should be a simple thing to
direct our action by conscious thought, but in a contest, the unconscious always, ultimately, wins.
Take weight loss for example.
With our conscious mind we may sincerely desire to lose weight, but we make little sustained progress.
Some people argue that the answer lies in education. Yet, it is statistically unlikely for any person in the
United States, with a television, overweight or otherwise, to not know how to lose weight.
There are more diets than we can list We are bombarded with instruction about which foods have which
effects. And when routinely implemented, they pretty much all work. As does exercise.
As a nation, and as individuals, we are not overweight for want of alternatives or lack of education.
Our conscious minds have been instructed how to lose: eat less, eat better, move more.
Yet, as anyone who has ever had a extra few pounds knows, losing weight is not as simple as choosing the
plan that is most logical and embarking on that road.
Physically, it may be as simple as putting the fork down, but there is a struggle within, a struggle with a
subconscious will that has a rationale all its own.
You are more than just a conscious being.
You are multileveled.
Just below your awareness, there are layers of unexamined, though not necessarily irrational, Self, with its
own drives and motivations.
When the unconscious and the conscious disagree, the emotion-laden drives of the unconscious win,
influencing us to act in the worst interests of our conscious intentions. (It can happen with other things too,
like love and relationships). We can find ourselves doing the very things "we do not want to do," despite
our most valiant conscious efforts.
There is a way to bring your unconscious motivations to light and get your drives working with you, instead
of against you.
Many of us have experienced the misuse of sex as an act of violence or violation, and deep inside, our
unconscious may feel being heavier is safer—making us less likely to attract unwanted attention (as noted
in the book, Fat is a Feminist Issue).
Given our culture’s media emphasis on images of extremely thin and non-muscular women, healthy or not,
being heavier may feel more butch—more physically imposing and empowering.
Or, since we all, naturally, take our sense of self from the messages others mirror back to us (the “looking
glass self”), the negative messages of others (intended or unintended) may have clouded our own
internalized sense of the wonder that we are, as our unconscious busily, dutifully, paints the picture
implanted by that negative feedback with every stroke of the spoon.
Similarly, there are underlying causes for the other ways in which we hurt our bodies (or even, our social
selves).
Smoking provides another example. What smoker hasn’t seen the ugly photos of the effects of tobacco tar
on lung tissue? And yet, those who smoke may find that quitting is harder than simply bearing up under
the temporary physical symptoms of nicotine withdrawal. The habit may be more deeply rooted than mere
physical addiction.
Smoking may be connected to our sense of self in the world—to images of sophistication or early images
of fitting in with those whose respect we needed.
Or it may be that, in the present day, you have areas of your life over which you feel a lack of control, and
smoking brings up the strength of adolescent resistance to adult pressures (individuation), temporarily
providing a present-day (subconscious) sense of greater autonomy or self-direction.
Or it may be that, in the stresses of modern adult life, not just the body, but the unconscious mind resists
giving up the serotonin uplift of nicotine, despite what your conscious mind knows about the long term
impact of cigarette smoke on your lungs; the day-to-day unpleasantness of smoking (outside in the cold
and rain) in an anti-smoker’s age; the smell of stale smoke lingering on hair and fingers and breath and
clothes; or the fact that smoking actually makes you feel un-well, today, every time you inhale.
You owe it to yourself to explore the unconscious motivations that hold back, or war against and sabotage,
the change you consciously desire.
Hypnotherapy is a safe, pleasant, and self-directed means of exploring your own inner, unconscious self.
It is an effective way of addressing, through self-understanding and the (self-directed) power of
suggestion, issues (as varied as habits, phobias, stress and pain reduction, relationships, social and self-
confidence, sexual function, past sexual hurts, and memory healing) that hold us back in the present.
As a hypnotherapist, I have no power over a client. Rather, I function as a trained facilitator to help YOU
explore and bring to light the drives and emotional motivations that underlie the ways in which you
war within yourself—so that you may come to peace—and accomplish your most sincerely desired
conscious resolutions.
At this time of year, when the idea of turning over a new leaf is uppermost in all of our minds, you can take
a step toward self-understanding that will be truly empowering—not a donut or a cigarette as resistance
against the injustices and stresses of everyday living—but an exploration to bring the multiple layers of
yourself into unity.
Whether you want to change your weight, stop smoking, exercise more, be free of fears and phobias, build
better relationships, or manifest* a better future—using the techniques of hypnotherapy (progressive
relaxation, guided visualization, and client-approved suggestions), in the privacy of my practice, I can
help YOU explore the “reasons” underlying your (rational) unconscious motivations—and rewrite
(together) the programming of your unconscious mind—to bring it into harmony with your consciously
desired resolutions for a more enjoyable future.
In hypnotherapy, YOU are always aware, always in control, and remember all.
You can learn more about me and my services at http://www.rosechild.org
For an appointment call 215.704.4264 or write nadine@rosechild.org.
© 2010 Nadine Rosechild Sullivan, Ph.D.
Nadine Rosechild Sullivan, Ph.D.
New years are times of new beginnings. People make decisions about things they would like to change.
They resolve, From this point on, I will take different actions to secure different results.
I will eat differently, exercise differently, treat my body differently. I will face my fears.
I will behave differently in my relationships. I will interact with others differently.
As I demonstrate in my classes* on Manifesting or Intentional Creation (a.k.a. The Secret, the Law of
Attraction, Faith), when exercised intentionally, the human will is an amazing thing. The moment of
decision, held fast, literally moves mountains.
But sometimes, the problem is in the holding fast. We can get derailed without even understanding why or
what happened.
Take New Year’s Resolutions.
More often than not, just a short time after the New Year, our conscious resolve has dissolved.
This can happen, because, as good as the human will is, we are more than just our consciousness. There
is more to you. There is a bigger, broader, deeper YOU than the part of your mind, of which you are aware.
Whatever the strength of your conscious will, there is far greater willpower in your unconscious. To make
any sort of lasting change, our unconscious and conscious minds must be brought into agreement and
work together. When all parts of you are in harmony, you have access to some of the greatest change
forces known.
Yet, often, we are a maze of hidden contradictions. Our conscious mind wants A, but for reasons of its
own, our unconscious mind wants B, and B is what we continue to have. It should be a simple thing to
direct our action by conscious thought, but in a contest, the unconscious always, ultimately, wins.
Take weight loss for example.
With our conscious mind we may sincerely desire to lose weight, but we make little sustained progress.
Some people argue that the answer lies in education. Yet, it is statistically unlikely for any person in the
United States, with a television, overweight or otherwise, to not know how to lose weight.
There are more diets than we can list We are bombarded with instruction about which foods have which
effects. And when routinely implemented, they pretty much all work. As does exercise.
As a nation, and as individuals, we are not overweight for want of alternatives or lack of education.
Our conscious minds have been instructed how to lose: eat less, eat better, move more.
Yet, as anyone who has ever had a extra few pounds knows, losing weight is not as simple as choosing the
plan that is most logical and embarking on that road.
Physically, it may be as simple as putting the fork down, but there is a struggle within, a struggle with a
subconscious will that has a rationale all its own.
You are more than just a conscious being.
You are multileveled.
Just below your awareness, there are layers of unexamined, though not necessarily irrational, Self, with its
own drives and motivations.
When the unconscious and the conscious disagree, the emotion-laden drives of the unconscious win,
influencing us to act in the worst interests of our conscious intentions. (It can happen with other things too,
like love and relationships). We can find ourselves doing the very things "we do not want to do," despite
our most valiant conscious efforts.
There is a way to bring your unconscious motivations to light and get your drives working with you, instead
of against you.
Many of us have experienced the misuse of sex as an act of violence or violation, and deep inside, our
unconscious may feel being heavier is safer—making us less likely to attract unwanted attention (as noted
in the book, Fat is a Feminist Issue).
Given our culture’s media emphasis on images of extremely thin and non-muscular women, healthy or not,
being heavier may feel more butch—more physically imposing and empowering.
Or, since we all, naturally, take our sense of self from the messages others mirror back to us (the “looking
glass self”), the negative messages of others (intended or unintended) may have clouded our own
internalized sense of the wonder that we are, as our unconscious busily, dutifully, paints the picture
implanted by that negative feedback with every stroke of the spoon.
Similarly, there are underlying causes for the other ways in which we hurt our bodies (or even, our social
selves).
Smoking provides another example. What smoker hasn’t seen the ugly photos of the effects of tobacco tar
on lung tissue? And yet, those who smoke may find that quitting is harder than simply bearing up under
the temporary physical symptoms of nicotine withdrawal. The habit may be more deeply rooted than mere
physical addiction.
Smoking may be connected to our sense of self in the world—to images of sophistication or early images
of fitting in with those whose respect we needed.
Or it may be that, in the present day, you have areas of your life over which you feel a lack of control, and
smoking brings up the strength of adolescent resistance to adult pressures (individuation), temporarily
providing a present-day (subconscious) sense of greater autonomy or self-direction.
Or it may be that, in the stresses of modern adult life, not just the body, but the unconscious mind resists
giving up the serotonin uplift of nicotine, despite what your conscious mind knows about the long term
impact of cigarette smoke on your lungs; the day-to-day unpleasantness of smoking (outside in the cold
and rain) in an anti-smoker’s age; the smell of stale smoke lingering on hair and fingers and breath and
clothes; or the fact that smoking actually makes you feel un-well, today, every time you inhale.
You owe it to yourself to explore the unconscious motivations that hold back, or war against and sabotage,
the change you consciously desire.
Hypnotherapy is a safe, pleasant, and self-directed means of exploring your own inner, unconscious self.
It is an effective way of addressing, through self-understanding and the (self-directed) power of
suggestion, issues (as varied as habits, phobias, stress and pain reduction, relationships, social and self-
confidence, sexual function, past sexual hurts, and memory healing) that hold us back in the present.
As a hypnotherapist, I have no power over a client. Rather, I function as a trained facilitator to help YOU
explore and bring to light the drives and emotional motivations that underlie the ways in which you
war within yourself—so that you may come to peace—and accomplish your most sincerely desired
conscious resolutions.
At this time of year, when the idea of turning over a new leaf is uppermost in all of our minds, you can take
a step toward self-understanding that will be truly empowering—not a donut or a cigarette as resistance
against the injustices and stresses of everyday living—but an exploration to bring the multiple layers of
yourself into unity.
Whether you want to change your weight, stop smoking, exercise more, be free of fears and phobias, build
better relationships, or manifest* a better future—using the techniques of hypnotherapy (progressive
relaxation, guided visualization, and client-approved suggestions), in the privacy of my practice, I can
help YOU explore the “reasons” underlying your (rational) unconscious motivations—and rewrite
(together) the programming of your unconscious mind—to bring it into harmony with your consciously
desired resolutions for a more enjoyable future.
In hypnotherapy, YOU are always aware, always in control, and remember all.
You can learn more about me and my services at http://www.rosechild.org
For an appointment call 215.704.4264 or write nadine@rosechild.org.
© 2010 Nadine Rosechild Sullivan, Ph.D.
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In and of itself, hypnotherapy is
neither psychology or medicine.
A hypnotherapist does not, cannot,
and should not replace other helping/
medical/ psychological/ spiritual
professionals.
Hypnotherapy is a complementary, and
can be a very spiritual, modality.
Individuals should continue their work
with other care providers.
neither psychology or medicine.
A hypnotherapist does not, cannot,
and should not replace other helping/
medical/ psychological/ spiritual
professionals.
Hypnotherapy is a complementary, and
can be a very spiritual, modality.
Individuals should continue their work
with other care providers.
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